It’s because you have been in love once, and you know it was real. Because it was not just different. It was one of a kind. It was the kind of love that gave you those butterflies in your stomach you thought never existed. It was the kind of love you never imagined would happen because everything seemed so perfect. It was the kind of love that made you dream of starting a family, have kids and be excited for the future. It was what made you believe in the possibility of a “happily ever after”. But then, it was also the same kind of love that broke your heart. It was what made it so difficult for you to sleep at night, live your normal life and fall in love with the world again. It was what made you build up your walls and live in fear of risks. It was what made you tough. It was what made you into someone you never thought you would be.
Yet even if it was the same kind of love that made you experience all those negative emotions, you are certain that it is still what you want. It’s because you live in memories. You live in the beautiful memories of that kind of love. You have forgotten the pain. You have forgotten the sadness. Slowly, you’ll begin to remember how you enjoyed every single moment of that kind of love. Of how you talked about your fears and fell in love with laughter. Of how certain you were that you will never fight alone, and how simple life could be just holding on to that kind of love. And at this point, you know that you will never ever settle for anything less than that.
So forget those whom you know can never keep up with that kind of love. Forget the lies. Forget the false hopes. Forget the mind games. Don’t waste your time holding on to possibilities. Forget those who always put you on a shelf and only pick you up when they feel like it. Forget those who cannot say outright their clear intentions. Forget those who cannot be brave enough tell you that yes they like you but they’re afraid that they cannot go beyond your beautiful memories of that kind of love. Let them go. Because why would you settle for something like that if you know that you can have better? If you believe that you can feel that kind of love once again? If you still have that hope that someday, someone would step up and assure you that he will do his best to create new beautiful memories with you?
Now, it was that kind of love that has somehow set your standards. Because you are certain that it was the kind of love that was never wasted. That even if it didn’t last, you believe that it was not some kind of an unrequited love. It was a real one. And you just know it. Because you have felt it. You have seen it. You tried to make it work. Yet even if it failed, it does not mean that the love wasn’t real. It’s just a phase where you’ll learn to love them differently. What matters is that you know that once upon a time, you both shared that kind of love. And the fact that you are sure that the love you once gave was reciprocated, you’re fine with that. That would be enough. That would be enough to start over and swear to yourself that you will never love again… until you have found the right person, at the right time.
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