This post is a continuation of my previous post: 28 Things About Planning a Wedding: Specifically Beach Weddings (Part 1) where I discussed things to consider about the ff.:
2. GUEST LIST
3. WEDDING PLANNER & COORDINATOR
4. MARRIAGE LICENSE
5. LOCATION & DATE
7. VISUALIZE YOUR WEDDING
10. SOURCING OUT OF SUPPLIERS
12. PHOTO & VIDEO
13. SOUNDS & MUSIC OPTIONS
Note: As of the moment, I’m still working on adding more photos (the ones I link in the post). I’ll edit this note once I have uploaded everything. :)
15. HAIR & MAKE-UP
Many couples would make this a non-negotiable item aside from the P/V team. Well, it’s understandable because we all want to look great on our wedding photos, right? We booked ours in a wedding expo and that’s where I also had my trial make-up. Wala na akong naging ibang option actually, sila lang. Haha. Manila-based supplier sila so we had to add an out-of-town fee. Pero okay lang dahil sobrang worth it.
a. Read reviews!
Before you decide to book for a trial make-up, it would be good to read reviews about them first para hindi sayang yung bayad at time mo. Nung pumunta kami sa wedding expo, alam ko na andun yung supplier na gusto ko talagang maging HMUA ko kasi I’ve read reviews na super okay ng quality and service nila. I wasn’t disappointed so I ended up booking them right away.
CLICK HERE: #DarelOneForRenel – Trial & Wedding Day Make-Up
b. You can negotiate the inclusions of the package
Like what I said, hindi kami nag-pre nup, pero dahil kasama yun sa package ni HMUA, we asked if pwede bang i-convert na lang into additional heads. I really appreciate na sobrang dali niyang kausap and he agreed. Sobrang hassle-free nila ka-work with and very professional!
CLICK HERE: #DarelOneForRenel – HMU Package
c. Plan your hair color for the wedding
If you are like me na pa-iba iba ang color ng hair, make sure na naka-plano din ‘to sa calendar mo as you prepare for the wedding. Haha. I’ve been maintaining my blonde hair for a couple of years already and I decided to be a blondie na lang din sa wedding ko. Kanya-kanyang trip yan diba. Hahaha. But the challenge was, late na ko nagsimula mag-retouch ng roots ko. Ang plan ko talaga sana was to have it done sa salon. Actually, I bleach and color my own hair pero sabi ko dahil wedding ko naman, why not na gastusan ko this time. Hahaha. Pero wala, tinanggihan nila ako dahil daw hindi na kaya mahabol for my wedding. So guess what! I did it on my own! Dating gawi. Haha. Hindi ko sya 100% nahabol pero not bad na rin.
d. Schedule your pamper sessions
You may want to consider booking a derma appointment as you prepare for the wedding. Naka-ilang sessions rin kami nito. Haha. Ang aarte. Sumakto kasi na right after ng engagement namin, biglang nag-break-out yung skin ko. Siguro naramdaman ng balat ko yung lahat ng stress na meron sa pag-pplan ng wedding. Hahaha.
CLICK HERE: #DarelOneForRenel – Derma Session
e. Yes, the groom puts on make-up as well
This goes for all the men na sa tingin nila hindi na nila kelangan mag make-up on the wedding day. Hahaha. It’s all for the photos, guys! Hindi naman kayo mag-mu-mukhang may make-up. Well, depende na lang sa HMUA nyo.
f. Make sure your HMUA has a room near/outside your reception area for your retouch
Don’t forget to assign a holding area for the HMU team na malapit na sa reception. Unless you’re okay na nasa labas lang kayo like sa hallway/walkway para sa retouch mo after ng ceremony.
Flowers matter, but it really depends on you and your fiancé. I really wanted to keep it simple kasi hindi naman talaga ako fan ng flowers. Haha. Initially, we tried to find a supplier sa Dangwa, pero medyo na-mahalan kami kasi wala pang stylist talaga yung price na binigay samin. Some couples just order and pick-up everything before heading to the venue, and bahala na si coordinator in putting everything in place. Pero we didn’t go for that para wala ng ibang iintindihin si coordinator namin. Buti na lang we found a supplier who is from Zambales so naka-kuha kami ng okay na price.
a. Compile the photos of your flower pegs and include the quantity if possible
This will make your life easier and it will help setting the expectations with your florist. Here’s a copy of what I sent to our florist prior our first meeting (had few adjustments sa actual). It would be good also to inform them of your budget para they can work around that na lang.
b. Don’t put your flowers in place too early
If you have a florist with you, they will take care of everything on your wedding day. Sila na bahala on what’s the best time to set up everything na hindi sobrang mabibilad sa araw ng yung mga flowers.
17. WEDDING RINGS
They say na okay daw gastusan yung wedding rings kasi it‘s what you will keep with you for the rest of your life. Well, yun eh kung hindi mawawala at kasya pa rin sa finger mo as the years go by. Haha. While a wedding ring is indeed a symbol of marriage, hindi pa rin dun fully naka-depend yung relatonship nyo. In fact, during our honeymoon, nawala nga ng asawa ko yung ring nya eh. Hahaha. Hindi ako nagalit kasi kung iisipin, it’s just a ring. Hindi naman dun naka-depend yung married life namin.
a. You can save on the cost of your wedding rings
If you have extra gold from your broken earrings, necklace, or bracelet, and etc., you can actually use it as a raw material for your wedding rings. You’ll just have to pay the labor cost so mas mura. In fact, possible rin na ikaw pa yung bayaran nila kung sobra yung amount ng jewelries mo na ipapatunaw. :)
Our wedding rings only cost 8,250php but the original amount is around 35k+. Labor lang yung binayaran namin. Ang laking tipid!!
CLICK HERE: #DarelOneForRenel – Wedding Rings
b. Have a dummy ring
I must say that most funny thing that happened during our wedding was the time when one of the wedding rings fell on the sand (we had a beach wedding). Yung ring bearer kasi namin gustong buksan. Biglang inagaw sa mom nya na kasabay nya maglalakad. So ayun, nahulog. Eh nag-start na yung wedding procession nun. Buti na lang nahanap so natuloy ang kasal. Hahaha! Can you imagine, nag panic sila lahat sa likod at naghukay.
So, to save yourself from such worry, better have a dummy ring na lang. Hindi mo alam kung baka mahulog at gumulong yan (if hindi beach ang venue) or tuluyang mabaon sa sand. Mahirap na. Akala namin imposible naman na mahulog ng ring bearer yun, until it happened to us. Hahaha!
I mentioned earlier that we only paid 8,250php for our wedding rings instead of 35k+. Ang laking tipid diba. Yun nga lang, hindi man nawala ng ring bearer namin, yung husband ko naman yung naka-wala during our honeymoon. So we paid another 13k para magpa-gawa ng bagong singsing for him. Hay nako. Hahahahaha.
18. BRIDE & GROOM’S ATTIRE
It is ideal to choose an outfit that will best suit a beach wedding. Isipin mo, mainit, tapos minsan sobrang hangin naman. Some people would spend a lot on their wedding outfits. Minsan gown pa lang ni bride 30,000php plus na. Pero for beach weddings, I think that the simpler it is, the better. But then again, kanya-kanyang preference yan.
a. Consider if you will have a veil
I don’t know if it’s just me, pero I’ve never seen a beach wedding na naging maayos yung itsura ng bride habang naglalakad with her veil on. Hinahangin kasi eh so parang ang gulo gulo tingnan. It’s your choice but for me, I decided not to wear one na lang. Although meron akong white parasol/umbrella, which kinda had a feel of having a veil na rin.
CLICK HERE: Shopee Link for the Lace Wedding Parasol
b. Barong could be an option instead of suit
So thankful for modern style of barong nowadays! Initially, I wanted Darel to wear a blue shade of suit, kaya lang sobrang pawisin sya so nag-no na kami sa option na yun (we had a beach wedding). Buti na lang we found this one from Onésimus and just had it altered to fit him nicely. Hindi ako fan ng barongs talaga but when I saw this design I think it really looks good, especially with the chinese collar.
CLICK HERE: #DarelOneForRenel – Barong Hunting
c. Look for a credible designer if you are not going to buy a ready-to-wear gown
Many brides would of course, want to have a gown specifically designed for them. Pero mahirap maka-hanap ng mura tapos maayos talaga. We had a mistake of booking a designer who offered a very cheap price for my supposed gown plus kasama na rin yung sa entourage. Nung una, okay naman eh. Sobrang responsive, tapos bibo talaga. Pero after namin mag down-payment, ang tagal na sumagot sa messages, tapos ang tagal na wala pang pina-pakitang progress nung designs. So, we decided to end the contract and asked for a refund. Hindi namin na-full refund pero okay na rin. Lesson learned. I hope you don’t make that same mistake.
c. You can find a wedding gown that is not too pricey
If your wedding gown/dress is one of your non-negos, it’s fine. It’s your wedding so enjoy! But, if you are looking for options na baka may mura naman na maganda, wag kayo mag-alala kasi meron at meron pa rin naman nun. Especially in Divisoria! Diskarte mo na lang din sa pag-research kung saan okay yung quality, service, and price.
I think we only had 2 and a half months left before the wedding nung inend namin yung contract with the supposed designer of my gown. Ang dami ng nasayang na time! Again, we only had 6 months to prepare for everything. Good thing we found Tantease! Nung una ko tinignan yung mga dress nila, inisip ko parang pang bridesmaids lang ata yung designs. But an idea came to me when I saw their Gabie dress from their catalogue. Naisip ko, pwede ‘to actually kung gawin lang white tapos dagdagan ng sequins sa upper part, tapos pahabaan na lang. In-short, we had it modified para mag-mukha siyang wedding dress. It was the best decision ever! I loved it! And it’s only 8,000php!
CLICK HERE: #DarelOneForRenel – Looking for a Wedding Dress
d. Not any flat sandals will do
You may want to consider having a very comfortable piece of footwear on your wedding day. I bought one from Kenneth Cole because it looked super nice and it was elegant enough for a bride. Pero hindi sobra. Sakto lang. Haha. Pero hindi ko na-consider na hindi pala sya okay pag sobrang init, like kapag ginamit mo sya sa sand because of the metal sa straps nya and yung mga bato. Haha. Struggle talaga sya nung pre-wedding ceremony photo-shoot. Mas gusto ko pa mag ordinaryong tsinelas na lang. Hahaha. Buti na lang nung ceremony na mismo hindi na ganun ka-init yung sand so I was able to walk comfortably.
e. On deciding whether to have a 2nd outfit for the reception or not
Some brides choose to have one, others do not. If you’re thinking of the budget, na dagdag gastos lang, pwede naman actually na yung wedding dress mo na lang talaga. During my wedding, I initially wanted to have a 2nd outfit sana like an infinity jumpsuit. Pero I was a having a hard time na mag-isip kung anong pwedeng pang-cover up kapag malamig na sa gabi. Lamigin kasi ako eh. Haha. I mean, yung babagay syempre diba. Hindi naman pwedeng jacket lang. Hahaha! So, basically we didn’t have much time to decide on those things kaya I ended up having just one outfit, which is my wedding dress. And it worked fine naman. Also, hindi ko naman pala kakailanganin ng cover-up during reception dahil hindi naman pala malamig. Hahaha.
19. ENTOURAGE & GUESTS’ ATTIRE
You can specify kung anong shade ng colors yung gusto mong ipa-suot sa guests mo and even sa entourage. So it would be good kung meron kang na-define na colors for your motif para dun ka na lang pipili.
a. The issue when everyone wears white
Our photographer mentioned this to us, na if we want to have our guests wear white, we could inform them na yung hindi puting-puti sana yung suotin nila. Minsan kasi mahirap timplahin yung pag-capture ng photos. Imagine, naka-white lahat, tapos outdoor, tapos yung sand nagrereflect din. I don’t now what’s the right term, pero parang sasabog sa pagka-white yung photo. Haha. Pero ewan ko, maybe depende na lang din sa P/V team nyo. As an alternative, pastel colors would be good for a beach wedding.
b. Consider the waiters’ attire
You don’t want your guests na mapag-kamalan na waiter, especially sa guys. Haha. Good thing our caterer was the one who asked us kung ano yung gusto naming ipa-suot sa staff nila during the wedding. I’m not sure if this goes for all caterers, pero I think it’s a must na may identification talaga especially kapag less formal events, like beach weddings. Sobrang na-appreciate ko sila because of this. ♥
CLICK HERE: #DarelOneForRenel – Waiters’ Outfit
c. Thank God for Infinity dresses & Uniqlo
Buti na lang talaga may Uniqlo at nauso ang infinity dresses noh?
We didn’t shoulder the expenses for the outfit of the entourage. We just asked them if okay lang ba na yun na lang yung gift nila samin. Kaya we made sure na as much as possible, hindi ganun ka-mahal yung mga damit na isusuot nila kasi sa kanila namin pinapasagot yun. Haha. Buti na lang game naman sila. We are so thankful to them for being such real friends and family. ♥
BRIDESMAIDS: If you want to save time and all the hassle, you may want to consider having infinity dresses for your bridesmaids. Marami ng iba’t-ibang style ngayon and it can be available almost everywhere. Aside from that, bagay rin sya for beach weddings kasi hindi mainit yung tela. For me, I chose a 2-tone infinity dress for my ladies, and sa Divisoria ako naka-hanap ng supplier. I just asked for their measurements and that’s it. Hindi na nila kailangan pumunta pa dun sa magtatahi para sukatan.
MAID OF HONOR: Infinity dress din pero one color lang yung sa kanya para mag-stand-out sya.
GROOMSMEN & BEST MAN: We just asked them to buy a specific white Chinese collar polo na available sa Uniqlo, para sure na pare-pareho sila. Tapos any blue chinos.
FLOWER GIRLS: Any white dress.
RING BEARER: White Chinese-collar polo and khaki shorts.
PRINCIPAL SPONSORS: We asked them to wear any shade of blue.
PARENTS: Dress and Chinese-collared barong in shade of beige. If you will notice gusto talaga namin yung Chinese-collar. Haha. Ang ganda kasi tignan and may konting dagdag modern feel yung dating nya sa barong.
c. Some people will comply; some will not
In reality, we cannot control everything. So you have to understand and accept na hindi lahat ng gusto mo masusunod. Minsan pa nga, may mga makukulit na tanong ng tanong kung pwede na ba yung isusuot nila, na may kasamang photos pa. Haha. At the end of the day, hindi mo rin naman mapapansin yung mga minor details na yun, so just let them be.
20. SOUVENIRS & FAVORS
When it comes to souvenirs and favors, it would be a good idea if you will match it with the overall feel of the wedding. Some couples even give welcome bags to their guests aside from souvenirs. Peg ko talaga sana yun pero hindi kinaya ng budget namin. Hahaha.
a. Gone were the days of having figurines as souvenirs
Nowadays, couples go for usable souvenirs, or kung hindi man, yung edible. Haha. Hindi na yung mga figurine na tinatago ng mga magulang natin sa cabinet tapos inaalikabok lang. So, sa panahon ngayon, the practical your souvenir is, the better.
b. You can ask favor for your wedding favors
Ano ba yung favors? Well, these are your little freebies for your guests. In some beach weddings, couples choose to give away sunglasses, flipflops, fans, or kahit anong gusto nila. I cannot remember having these favors in our wedding. Pero naalala ko na gusto sana nun. But then, budget concern again. Haha. Good thing we had few beach essentials like sunblock and wipes na sponsored by friends, so yun na lang yung pinaka-favors namin.
c. You can have dual purpose for your souvenirs
Our souvenirs were pillows, na yun din yung ginamit na seats ng ibang guests namin during the ceremony and reception. Hindi na rin kami nagkaron ng separate gifts for our entourage but instead, we just customized their pillows with their names on it. (more about it on #21 DIYS)
You can save a lot of money by doing DIYs! But you have to consider if you really have time to do everything. In our case, we had to DIY our souvenir pillows. Yes. 170pcs! Hahaha. At first I was looking for suppliers pero I realized na ang mahal pala ng ganung size. I think that’s 16” x 16” or 18” x 18”. Then I thought, bakit di na lang kami gumawa? I have a mini sewing machine which I bought year 2016 and I’ve never used it. Hahaha. Ayun. Nag ROI sya sakin. So nung nag DIY kami, sobrang naka-tipid talaga kami, plus it was very unique, and practicality wise, magagamit talaga ng guests namin even after the wedding.
a. Involve people
Naging “community project” talaga yung pag-gawa ng souvenirs namin. We asked helped from family members, relatives and friends. It could be a good time for bonding and fun as well!
b. You can DIY many things, not only souvenirs!
If you’ve got the skills, maximize it! Sobrang dami naming DIY in our wedding. Gamit na gamit yung photoshop at yung sewing skills ko! Hahaha. Bukod sa pillows, kami rin gumawa ng signages and directionals, the “map”, pillow tags, menu cards, reception seating plan standee, the paper fans (which includes the timeline of program and our short message for the guests), and even the tablecloths and table runners! Hahaha. Limited kasi yung kay caterer so bumili na lang kami sa Divisoria and tinahi na lang namin for the size of the tables. So, in short, sobrang dami mo talagang pwedeng matipid if you will just be creative enough and make sure you can balance your schedule to accommodate working on your DIYs. I have a video showing all our DIYs for the wedding!
CLICK HERE: #DarelOneForRenel – DIY Pillow Souvenirs
CLICK HERE: #DarelOneForRenel – Other Wedding DIYs (See #20 Souvenirs, #22 Styling, and #23 Signages and Directionals for the other DIY items)
CLICK HERE: #DarelOneForRenel – Wedding Preps Video
b. Don’t forget logistics for the delivery and storage of your DIYs
Doing the DIYs is one thing. Transporting them on site is another issue. Especially kung malalaki yung items. Imagine, we have 170 pcs. of pillows na ginawa namin in QC and kailangan namin siya i-byahe all the way to Zambales. It was a big concern because I had to ask the owner of the resort if pwede bang iwanan namin in advance (like few weeks before the wedding) yung mga items. Bukod sa pillows, meron pa kaming mga kahoy for the signages & directionals, and many other things. Well, sabi ko naman sa inyo napaka-bait nila, kaya wala kaming naging problem. Haha. They made sure na secure yung items namin until the wedding day. :)
22. OVERALL LAYOUT & STYLING
Again, this will depend on your venue. If they have their in-house stylist, no problem. But if you have a venue like ours, and you don’t have a wedding planner, sariling sikap mo talaga ’to. I’ll be sharing tips based on how we did it on our wedding, where our ceremony area is different from the reception area.
a. Know how big your area is
By knowing the total area of your venue, you will know up to what extent yung pwede mong magawa. I feel like this is a crash course on space planning 101 that I’m giving you. Hahaha. So anyway, it doesn’t mean na maliit yung space, hindi mo magagawan ng paraan. Hindi rin ibig sabihin na malawak yung space, sobrang okay na. Mas mahirap nga minsan pag sobrang laki ng area kasi you need to consider kung paano sya hindi mag-mu-mukhang bare masyado.
b. Maximize your space to make sure everyone gets a good view during ceremony
We’ve all experienced it. You attend a wedding, take a seat, and later find out na hindi mo rin pala ganun makikita yung nangyayari sa harap. A beach wedding has a big potential of not having this problem kasi pwede mong pag-laruan yung space and seats. I particularly wanted a somewhat radial layout sa ceremony para most of the guests (if not all) can get a good view of what’s happening. We made use of regular chairs, wood palettes, and pillows and cloth on the sand para staggered yung effect. I hope you get what I mean. Hahaha. I have here a floor plan for the venue of our wedding. This was very useful to make-sure our coordinators will be able to follow what layout I wanted.
CLICK HERE: #DarelOneForRenel – Wedding Layout (Floor Plans)
We also designated seats for our guests. Inassign namin siya per group and we used signages (more about this on item #23 Signages & Directionals). We made sure that the people who will sit on the sand or sa wood palettes, eh kaya nilang umupo dun. Haha. We casually mentioned this to our guests when we invited them so hindi na sila nagulat pagdating nila dun. Yung pag-inform din namin sa kanila in advance was a way for them to prepare in wearing something that they can be comfortable with sa ganung set-up.
SOON: #DarelOneForRenel – Styling Preps & Actual Photos
c. Consider your sunset view
Sunsets by the beach is very beautiful. But you have to be careful na hindi dun directly naka-tingin yung guests mo. So, setting-up the ceremony diagonally, para hindi direct sa sun, would be good. And speaking of sunsets, you can do away with photo booths. Thinking that the best backdrop in beach weddings is actually the beach itself or the sunset view, we just rented a peacock chair so our guests can use it for photo-ops. Parang hindi ko kasi feel yung typical photobooth in a beach wedding.
And besides, people nowadays just want a good Instagrammable spot. Haha. Mas magaling pa nga sila kumuha ng own photos nila tapos diretso edit and post.
I also used this during the bridal preps photoshoot. Hahaha. Tiis ganda sa arawan. This was actually a last minute idea. Like mga 3 weeks before the wedding na lang. Nahirapan pa ako mag-hanap ng supplier pero buti na lang I found one in Pampanga! ♥
CLICK HERE: #DarelOneForRenel – Peacock Chair
d. Decide on the reception set-up
We all love the idea of beach weddings with the reception set-up na may low tables tapos sa sand naka-upo. BUT!! This is very tricky and challenging. First, you need to know if may enough ba na items yung caterer nyo to give you this set-up. Like, can they provide the low tables? How about yung pillows as seats? Or yung tela na ilalatag nyo sa sand? If wala, you need to find a different supplier pa.
Unfortunately, our caterer don’t have these items kasi ang sabi nila samin, most of their clients are locals (meaning taga dun din sa Zambales or Subic), and normally yung beach weddings nila, yung set-up is always the “modern” type. Bihira daw yung mga nagre-request ng “chill” or “boho” theme. Feeling ko yung mga taga Manila lang talaga yung mahilig sa ganun eh. Haha! I think that’s also the reason why they were so eager to help us achieve our “plan”, kasi pang portfolio rin nila yun diba. They even bought new charger plates for us! Usually kasi, pang VIPs lang yung mga charger plates. Pero when I saw na ang ganda pala nya tignan, I requested if pwede bang lahat ng guests may charger plates. Hahaha. They agreed! In fact, dahil sa U.S. sila kumuha nung existing nila, they had to do all the necessary things para maka-abot lang sa wedding day namin lahat ng charger plates! Hahaha. Sobrang dami naming request sa kanila, and we are so thankful because they were so accommodating! ♥ In fact, nagsesend palagi ng updates yung caterer namin through FB and sobrang na-appreciate ko yun.
Okay. So normally, people use wood palettes to achieve low tables. Okay sana talaga yun kasi when it comes to the size, perfect sya. Marami kang space para sa centerpieces mo. Ideally sana ganito yung gusto ko for us kasi like what I mentioned in item #11 FOOD, we didn’t go for a buffet set-up during our reception. We asked our caterer to serve the platters of food on each table of the guests. So, kung wood palettes sana, mas maluwag tignan yung table with all the plates and food (nagawan naman namin ng paraan, see the photos for more details). Pero wala kaming mahanap na supplier near sa venue, and ang mahal kung galing Manila pa. Actually we had few palettes sa ceremony area (which we borrowed from a friend pero limited number lang). So, buti na lang our caterer offered na pwede nila ilubog sa sand yung tables nila para maging low tables. Pero ang tagal nun. Imagine mag-huhukay pa sila para ibaon yung legs ng tables isa-isa. Wala talaga kong masabi sa caterer namin. The best. Hahaha. As for the other items needed, dun na pumasok yung DIYs namin; from the tablecloth (because I want a specific shade which they don’t have), table runner, wood slices, candles, jars/bottles for the flowers, etc. Click the link to see the photos.
SOON: #DarelOneForRenel – Styling Preps & Actual Photos
e. Consider the seniors
Hindi lahat ng set-up namin for the reception was low tables. We had regular tables too for the seniors and for those na hindi kaya umupo sa floor. During cocktails rin, while everyone was busy getting their isaw and barbecue, nag-ready kami ng regular seats with the view of the sunset para sa mga hindi na kayang makipag-sabayan ng nakatayo or umupo sa sand.
e. Make it literally LIT
What do I mean by this? Well, it simply means make sure maliwanag sa reception area nyo pag gabi. Hahaha. I really wanted to have string lights so we had to look for a supplier for this. We found one in Subic, and sila rin yung kinuhanan namin ng genset. We visited their office and we made sure na makikita namin kung anong itsura nung string lights in actual. So medyo nag-antay pa kami dumilim ng konti para makita namin kung gaano kaliwanag. Haha. Also, take note na if you have a tent, it will reflect mas illuminated yung effect sa space compared if wala. Ayoko sana talaga ng may tent. Yung open lang sana, pero we had to put it up due to the circumstances (more on #21 BACK UP PLAN).
f. Designate a Kids Play Area
We really intended to have this during the wedding. Nag-ready kami ng inflatables, toys, beach balls, etc. but we had some problems setting it up kasi kinulang ng na-set up na tent yung supplier namin. It ended up na sobrang init without the tent so hindi natuloy yun. Pero the kids enjoyed pa rin naman kasi basta may sand masaya na sila. Hahaha. For beach weddings, I am not convinced that giving away activity books/crayons to the kids in a beach wedding reception will be effective. Hayaan nyo na lang sila maglaro sa sand, mas gusto nila yun. Hahaha.
h. Have a lounge area for your guests
Where will your guests stay while waiting for the ceremony to start? If your venue is in a big resort, this shouldn’t be an issue because they have a lobby for this. But for small resorts na hindi enough ang space for a lobby, you need to think about this. La Andreax Resort have this big kubo which we turned into a lounge area. Nag-set-up lang kami ng table with overflowing snacks and drinks, and even a huge mirror so they can do little retouch without going to the bathroom. Hahaha. Dito ina-usher yung guests pagdating nila, and it’s a good place to eat, drink, and mingle with other guests.
SOON: #DarelOneForRenel – Wedding Day Lounge Area
g. You can’t achieve 100%
I think may mga small details na hindi na-achieve nung wedding ko. Pero feeling ko ako lang yun kasi sobrang OC ako na up to the minor details alam ko. HAHA. Dala siguro ng pagiging arkitekto nga. Hahaha. Anyway, those things didn’t matter naman because I don’t think people even noticed. Hahaha. Ang importante, everyone had a great time!
23. SIGNAGES & DIRECTIONALS
This is very important to make sure that you can usher well your guests mula sa parking hanggang sa location ng ceremony and reception. Kami, we even started from the hi-way hanggang sa inner roads papunta sa venue. I think hindi lang sya pang beach or outdoor weddings eh. Kahit indoor pa yan, mas okay pa rin kung meron. :) Or feeling ko lang kasi as an architect kasama ‘to lagi sa considerations namin. Hahaha.
We just asked a carpenter to cut for us specific sizes of wood na kailangan namin. Pati na rin yung stand kasi yung iba hindi kayang ibaon sa sand. Tapos kami na nagsulat and nag-paint isa-isa then sa venue na namin inassemble (using screw).
a. Think of yourself as a “guest” on your own wedding
Yes, the wedding day is all for the bride and groom but it doesn’t mean that we will not consider the special people whom we have invited. So, just imagine, what if you will be an attendee sa sarili mong wedding? How would you feel? Hassle ba? Nakaka-ligaw? Where do you exactly go pag-dating mo sa venue? I’m sure it will not hurt to make our guests feel comfortable as well and help them navigate easily.
This is also what we used to communicate to our guests where we want them to be seated. For example, I have group of friends from UST kasi it’s where I graduated, so we had a signage with “UST” on it. Sa husband ko naman, we just named it “SBC” kasi from San Beda siya. Haha. It’s easier for our friends to know where they are assigned to sit because of this. (See photos)
CLICK HERE: #DarelOneForRenel – Signages & Directionals
24. BACK UP PLAN
You always need to have a back-up plan in outdoor weddings, especially beach weddings. Like what I said in item #5 LOCATION & DATE, we can never predict kung uulan ba or hindi on our wedding day. I remember, I’ve been obsessing sa mga weather apps trying to determine if uulan ba sa wedding ko or not. Hahaha!
Questions to consider:
a. Is your layout flexible enough to change?
I mentioned na we had a different area for the ceremony and reception. Pero I prepared a different layout in case na umulan, having the ceremony and reception na magkasama na lang.
CLICK HERE: #DarelOneForRenel – Wedding Layout Plan B
b. Should I rent a tent for back-up?
The simple answer is yes, especially if wala namang available na covered area or function room yung venue nyo, like ours. But deciding whether to get one or not is not that simple kasi syempre dagdag gastos nanaman ‘to. Especially kelangan mong bayaran yung tent whether you use it or not. And aside from that, ang hirap nanaman mag-hanap ng local tent supplier. Hindi kami willing gumastos ng 100k para sa Manila-based supplier ng tents. So, ang naging option namin was the ordinary ones because we were thinking na back-up lang naman.
The week of the wedding, we were confident na hindi uulan kasi sobrang init nun. Pero the day before, nung nag-se-set-up na ng lahat, biglang umulan. And ang lala. So, we had to instruct na i-set-up na yung tent kasi we don’t know if uulan ba ulit the next day. Good thing hindi umulan on the wedding day itself!! In fact, sobrang init. So okay na rin. It was a good call na may naka-back –up kaming tent.
c. How do I prepare for mosquitoes or flies?
May mga areas na may seasons din ang pag-dami ng mosquitoes/flies. Especially if season ng pag-harvest ng fruits or crops. So it would be good if you can ask for information about this sa owners ng resorts or sa caterer nyo (if they are locals). In our case, we didn’t have any problem with this. Pero nag-ready na rin kami. We had bug sprays and lotions for guests, and made it a point na may citronella candles per table.
25. CEREMONY & RECEPTION PROGRAM
We don’t want weddings that are too long, kasi aside from nakaka-pagod for the bride and groom, maraming guests yung hindi talaga tinatapos until the end of reception kasi gusto na nila umuwi. Hindi naman talaga maiiwasan yun, we’ve been guests to other weddings ourselves, so we know the feeling.
a. You can keep it simple
We decided na we want to keep it short as much as possible to consider our guests na possibleng uuwi pa pabalik ng Manila. For the ceremony, we wanted a maximum of 1 hour alloted for it. And like what I mentioned in the earlier items, we removed traditional wedding symbols. Nag-lagay lang kami ng isa, which is yung “mixing of sand”, na ngayon eh naka-display dito sa bahay namin. Also, gusto namin mahabol na mag-end yung ceremony during sunset. Pero sobrang nag-habol naman kami kasi late na kami nakapag-start dahil sobrang init pa. Ayun tuloy, ang bilis pala bumaba ng araw so mabilisang photos lang.
SOON: #DarelOneForRenel – Wedding Ceremony Photos
SOON: #DarelOneForRenel – Wedding Reception Photos
For the reception, like what I mentioned in item #10e FOOD – BUFFET IS NOT THE ONLY OPTION IN WEDDING RECEPTIONS, naka-save na kami ng time dun sa pag-serve ng food per table. Meaning, everyone gets to eat, all at the same time. Kahit kaming newlyweds! Wala ng antayan. Wala na rin kaming pa-games. Sobrang simple lang talaga. I have here the program we had in our wedding:
SOON: #DarelOneForRenel – Wedding Program
b. Should I hire a host?
People normally hire professional ones. Pero, if you know someone from your friends, family, or relatives who can do the task, why not just ask them? Kami, we just asked one of our dear friends na napaka-talented naman talaga. Haha. Ang okay dun, we know how he is like in hosting weddings. In fact, marami-rami na rin akong na-attendan na kasal ng friends namin na sya rin yung nag-host. Pati nga yung sa kasal ng ate ko, sya rin eh. Hahaha. Ang puhunan lang namin dun is yung friendship at konting love gift for him.
c. So what if it ended up early?
The initial plan was to end by 8:30pm. Ang aga noh? Pero we planned for a bonfire talaga so okay lang. Parang “after party” kumbaga. Pero dahil nga we didn’t start on time (dahil mainit pa), nag-move lahat. So okay lang kasi hindi pa rin ganun ka-late natapos. We actually had a good buffer sa time kasi hindi puno yung schedule, so if ever na magkaron ng technical difficulties (which happened btw) or let’s say hindi nga nag-start on time, we ended up not so late pa rin.
26. ON THE DAY PREPS AS A BRIDE
Your goal on your wedding is to be a bridechilla and not a bridezilla. So, get lots of sleep and rest days before your big day. Take note, sobrang haba ng araw mo on your wedding day so you want to be prepared as much as possible. Btw, it would be good if may one person from the coordinators na naka-assign lang talaga sayo as a bride. Sobrang saya ng buhay ko nun. Hahaha. Lahat ng gagawin ko, kada galaw, may nag-a-assist sakin. Kung gusto ko ng tubig, pagkain, pag masyado mainit may nag-pa-payong… ah basta! Hahaha.
a. On pre-ceremony photoshoot
Make sure your HMUA and P/V team will arrive on the site early. Kasi habang inaayusan ka, the P/V team needs to document that. I super love our HMU team kasi sila yung pinaka-maaga dumating. Yung tipong nagulat na lang kami na, “Uy, andyan na agad kayo.” Hahaha. By the way, I don’t know if there are brides who hire a stylist para i-plan yung isusuot nila, pati na rin yung with the bridesmaids during the pre-ceremony photoshoot. Hindi ko kasi naisip yun. HAHA. I just picked out my own outfit for the bridal prep photo-shoot, which I really intended na hindi lang yung typical robe shots, kasi hello, nasa dagat kaya tayo. Why not ibagay natin diba? Hahaha!
SOON: #DarelOneForRenel – Wedding Day Bridal Preps Photoshoot
SOON: #DarelOneForRenel – Family Photos
b. Enjoy your breakfast and lunch
May tendency ako minsan na wala akong gana kumain if something important is going to happen on that day. Pero knowing na mahaba-haba yung magiging araw ko, I had to eat my breakfast and lunch. Haha. You need energy for the whole day. Okay rin if you will have biscuits or candies with you.
c. Memorize your vow
We had a Christian wedding, so vows are allowed. Ang tip samin nung pastor na nag-kasal sa amin, if you can memorize it, the better. Haha. So I just kept mine simple para hindi ko makalimutan. Ginawa ko nga lang yun the night before eh. Hahaha. Na-realize ko rin na dapat pala swabe yung pag-kasabi mo nun, like walang mali, kasi yung recording nun yung gagamitin ng P/V team for your SDE (if you have one). And as someone who edits a video myself, mahirap mag-edit pag hindi maganda yung raw file. Haha.
d. Savor every moment
On the wedding day, wala ka na dapat iisipin. Mula sa supplier, details and even payments. I-delegate mo na yun kay coordinator. Naalala ko nun, maaga ako natapos naayusan and tapos na rin yung photoshoot, naiinip na ako sa kwarto. Hahaha. Inaantay na lang kasi medyo bumaba yung araw. Hindi naman ako maka-nap kasi magugulo yung ayos ko diba. So, nag-ssound trip lang ako nun while eating gummy candies. Haha. And surprisingly, wala akong kaba na nafi-feel that moment. Kinabahan lang ako nung andun na ko mismo sa ceremony area and I’m about to walk. Woooh! Good times. ♥
27. POST- WEDDING
So ito na, malapit ng matapos itong pagka-haba-habang guide ko! Haha. So ayokong kalimutan i-mention yung some tips or things to consider after your wedding by the beach.
a. Expect the unexpected
I don’t know if it’s just us, pero the most hassle thing pa ata that happened during the wedding was nung tapos na lahat. Well, we had some relatives who unexpectedly spent the night sa resort and hindi namin na-anticipate yun kasi hindi naman sila nag-sabi. So, we ended up giving our room (yes, us the newlyweds) to them. So kami itong nag-hanap ng extra room. Hahaha. Okay lang naman. Natatawa na lang kami ni Darel ‘pag naaalala namin. Hahaha.
b. Don’t forget the make-up remover
Hindi ko rin alam kung wala ba talaga akong na-pack or dahil nga nag-alsa-balutan kami para mag-hanap ng kwarto, pero it turned out na wala akong make-up remover na nadala as we transferred. Hahaha! So just imagine, I had to use baby wipes to remove all the make-up from my face, which didn’t work. Sumakit lang yung mukha ko. Hahaha.
c. Enjoy the night with your husband…
YES! Enjoy the night SLEEPING! Hahaha. Dahil sobrang time-consuming mag-tanggal ng make-up, pati na rin ng hair extensions, with all the hairpins and everything, matatapos yung gabi na gusto nyo na lang matulog sa sobrang pagod. Hahaha.
As you plan for your wedding, don’t forget to plan also for your honeymoon. Especially if it’s something that will involve a visa. You can’t do that on the last minute. Pero, if local lang naman, mas less yung time na kailangan to prepare. So, consider those things.
Questions to ask:
a. Should we wait for a few days before leaving for honeymoon trip?
Actually, depende naman sa inyo yun. Kung wala na bang kailangan i-settle after ng wedding eh, then go! In our case, we waited for a few weeks kasi we needed to move-in pa in our new house and may post-celebration pa kami with some of our friends na hindi namin na-invite.
b. Honeymoon ideas?
Well, wala akong ibang idea na ibibigay kundi yung ginawa na lang din namin on our honeymoon. Nag-backpacking kami for 3 weeks! Pero dito lang sa Pilipinas. Haha. So ayun, medyo sunog na sunog talaga kami pag-uwi namin. Pero sobrang sulit!!
CLICK HERE: #DarelOneForRenel Honeymoon Trip
So there! We’re done! In case I missed out on anything, let me know! If you have questions, ask away! I’d be happy to help out by sharing more tips if needed. Also, you may share this to a bride you know! Let’s make the world a better place by helping out ladies not become a bridezilla, but instead, a bridechilla. Pagkatapos ng lahat, may hindi man nangyari, nasunod, or may sumablay man, just be thankful. ♥
Always remember, the wedding day is just the start. Focus more on how to keep your marriage strong, simply because God designed marriage. And if God designs something, it means it’s important. Your marriage is more important than the wedding. ♥
A BIG THANK YOU!!
Venue: La Andreax Beach Resort, Casa Angelina, Casa Luzviminda
Catering: Viring’s Heritage Cuisine Catering Services
Photo & Video: Imagine This Creatives
Sound: DJ Mike of Soundrave Lights & Sound
Lights and Genset: Audio Frequency
Cocktails: Proudly Promdi
Lechon (and tent): Dasha Thai Cuisine
Cake: Bethany Dream Cakes
Peacock Chair: Peacock Chairs Pampanga Vintage 1970’s
HMUA: TeamRed – MakeUp by RedGa
Wedding Rings: Radiant Jewelry
Wedding Dress: Tantease
Darel’s Barong: Onesimus
Flowers: Nesly’s flower services
Crew meal: LC’s
Printing of Program Fans: Joshua Villaruz
Officiating Pastor: Rev. Rey Avante
Host: Dave Capule
OTD Coords: Dane Najos, Mitch Sy Quimsiam, Jojen, Tins of Purple Belle Events
**And to our friends who offered their help!**