When I got married, I really didn’t know how to cook. I mean, I may have had a little idea, because when I was still single and still living in my parents’ house, my mom would sometimes ask me to help her cook. Help in the sense of, bantayan ko lang yung niluluto niya, or taga-lagay ng ingredients na na-prepare na nya.
However, I cannot remember na I cooked by myself tapos naging successful yung niluto ko. Parang, sige ako na maghuhugas ng plato, magwawalis, pero wag mo lang akong paglutuin. Haha! Wait, kaya ko naman pala yung mga hotdogs, pancit canton, mag-saing sa rice cooker, although minsan pala yung hotdog medyo hilaw or medyo sunog. Haha! Pero gets, you will never see me hanging out or helping out in the kitchen. There was a time when I attempted to cook a fish on my own, but I ended up murdering it. Pero edible pa rin naman siya kahit na hindi siya nagmukhang isda. Haha.
Last January, I posted “24 Dishes I Learned to Cook Within 7 Months of Being Married”. Yep. I slowly learned how to cook as I do this married life. And I love documenting every dish because it makes me think that, “Wow I can actually do these .”
Here are some things that I realized during the whole process of learning how to cook, now that I’m married:
1. It’s not really scary
Before, takot na takot ako mag prito, and I dread using the knife. Pero hindi naman pala siya ganun nakakatakot if you would just be willing to learn how to do it, and if someone is willing to teach you as well.
Darel really knows how to cook. Hindi lang out of experience, kasi he really studied culinary after he finished college. So kumbaga, pati yung technical aspects alam nya aside from the experience. And I appreciate how patient he is kapag tinuturuan nya ako. Siguro kasi he loves doing it, so ramdam mo yung passion kaya ang sarap matuto. Haha.
Last week, I cooked Ginataang Kalabasa and Sitaw, and it was my first time to cook squash or kalabasa. So ibig sabihin, first time ko rin na maghiwa nun, and hindi ko alam kung paano. Like, pwede ba ‘to ng peeler of knife lang dapat? Hahaha. Kami naman ni Darel, everytime I will cook tapos andito siya, he acts as my consultant. Yung tipong ipapakita ko sa kanya tapos itatanong ko if tama ba, and sinasagot naman nya. That time, he just got home from work when I started to prepare the ingredients, and when I asked him if I was slicing the squash right, he immediately offered to show me how to do it.
I really appreciate it kasi aside from it empowers me, it also really encourages me. Yung small actions of my husband that makes me feel na, “Uy, madali lang pala.” or “Kaya ko rin pala.” Yung mga ganun.
So, if you are doubting yourself if you can really do it, YES YOU CAN. If you have zero knowledge in the kitchen, let me tell you that you just have to TRY IT. And besides, it’s super easy to unlock new recipes because we have Google and Youtube nowadays. Btw, hindi ko pa kaya magluto ng walang finafollow na recipe. Pero, ano naman diba? Atleast nakakapag luto.
2. There’s a lot to learn
Nakakatuwa isipin na kahit pala sa pagluluto, you can really show your creative side. Alam nyo naman pag mga creative people, kailangan palagi ng outlet nyan. Kaya ako, dinadaan ko sa plating. Hahaha. Pero minsan hirap na hirap ako mag plan ng meals namin. We do the grocery every 2 weeks, so meaning kailangan naka plano na lahat ng kakainin or lulutuin ko for 2 weeks. And sa totoo lang, madalas nauubusan na ako ng idea, or minsan naman kapag busy, nakakapagod yung everyday ka magluluto.
So because of that, I learned how to meal prep. Pero hindi ko na siya masyadong nagagawa lately. Ito siguro yung gusto ko pa matutunan moving forward kasi it really saves time during the week and mas kaya mong gawing healthy yung meals na ipe-prepare mo.
Itong si Darel, hindi naman mahirap pakainin ‘to. Hahaha. Basta masaya ang breakfast or brunch nya, okay na yan. Madalas kasi yung dinner nya palaging oatmeal lang. So kung iisipin, hindi siya dapat ganun kahirap for me. Ang problema ko naman, dahil light dinner lang yung kinakain nya, kailangan ko pa rin magluto for myself kasi hindi ko kaya ng oatmeal lang din yung food ko. So mahirap rin kasi minsan iisipin mo, magluluto pa ba ako eh ako lang naman yung kakain? Haha!
Pero since we’ve been married for a year, I could say that I’m slowly learning how to adjust. Ganun naman yun eh. The more you do it, the more you get familiarized and you really learn along the way. It excites me to know that I’m just starting and there’s a lot to explore and learn when it comes to cooking.
3. It’s Worth It
And like what I’ve just said, since I’ve been doing this for a year already, I began to realize the hassle side of it. Before, it excites me to do the grocery, pero ngayon, minsan nakakatamad na. Or baka tamad lang talaga ako? Hahaha. Hindi lang yung pag grocery itself eh, but the part where you have to store and organize everything when you get home. And sometimes, nakakapagod talaga magluto especially in preparing the ingredients and washing the dishes. Wala pa dun yung ubos na talaga ang brain cells mo kaka-isip ng menu for the week.
Pero for me, it’s worth it naman. Especially when your husband or sometimes, people, appreciate your cooking. We’ve been inviting people in our home and I love cooking for them. Sino naman mag-aakala na kaya ko talaga mag come-up ng edible na putahe para sa mga bisita namin noh? Hahaha. Bukod dun, ang saya rin makita na your husband enjoys the meals you prepare for him. I guess it’s the simple joys that make-up for all the hassle part of it.
Sometimes I wonder kung paano kaya if may anak na kami. I’m sure panibagong adjustment nanaman yun sa pagluluto, kasi kailangan mag adjust ng portions and really consider the new human added in our family. Haha. It’s exciting, so I’m praying to God for strength at kasipagan for me to keep on doing these things. Minsan, ang hirap labanan ng katamaran eh. Hahaha. But like what my husband always say, “You are already doing a good job, but you can still improve.” Repeat to self 100x.
I just realized, ang laki ng help na nabigay ni Darel when it comes to my journey of learning how to cook. I think it’s because andun yung respect. Walang pressure. Wala yung dahil ako yung babae, ako dapat yung ganito or ganyan. Also, andun rin yung patience nya sa akin. I know I’ve mentioned this before in one of my write-ups na before we got married, Darel asked himself if willing ba siya na ipagluto ako araw araw. Kasal na kami nung knwento nya sakin ‘to and ang sagot ko sa kanya, “Grabe naman. Consideration talaga yun bago magpakasal?” And he said yes, without even joking.
And now, I agree. Because if you really think about it, that’s just one of the many things we often miss out when we think about marriage. Syempre, hindi yung pagluluto per se pero yun bang sacrifices that you are willing to make once you are already living together. Yung little things that composes the reality of starting your own family. Kasi imagine if Darel wasn’t willing to cook for us everyday, kasi ineexpect nya na dapat matuto ako, tapos hindi naman pala ako willing matuto, edi malamang yun yung isa sa mga palagi namin pag aawayan.
Indeed it’s true when they say that for marriage to work, it takes more than just your love for each other. It requires everything you are and what you believe in. It requires what you’re willing to sacrifice and what you’re willing to fight for. I’m happy with my progress on this area when it comes to being a wife to my husband. Sa pagluluto pa lang ‘to ha, wala pa yung ibang bagay na kasama in this married life. Being a wife and a young misis to be exact could sometimes be overwhelming, but by God’s grace, I think I’m doing a pretty good job. So to all young misis out there like me, hinga lang. We can do this!